A healthy family ìs not a perfect family. No one is perfect and no family is perfect. However, as sons of God, we move on towards being perfected - which speaks of a maturing in Christ and not human perfection.
A family is healthy because it grows in maturity as each member learns to be a conduit of grace - relating to the other in ways that glorify God.
God is teaching us to live honourably and to honour those He has placed in our lives. God's grace flows through others to us.
As we position ourselves in God-honouring ways, grace others have for us is multiplied in our lives.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honour to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
Honour your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you. Exodus 20:12